I think there's a huge hole in your theory.
Lois stopped grieving after she discovered that Clark was still alive. The fact that he was still alive didn't lessen her grief at all when she *didn't know* that. When she found out he was still alive, she was overjoyed. She didn't spend the rest of the series (or her life) mourning him because she once thought he was dead.
Which is exactly the point I was trying to make here. So... TOGOMs and Lois deathfics are
not the same. Which was my point.
Ann
