But, Sheila, it seems to me that that is what you are saying. If the husband wants a divorce, it is always the wife's fault.
Let me rephrase it. It seems to me that Sheila is saying that if a man wants to leave his wife, it is up to the wife to fight for her marriage and make her husband stay. If he leaves her anyway, it is the wife's fault, because she didn't fight for him hard enough. So the fact that the husband wants to leave is not much a problem in itself, and not much of a threat to the marriage in itself. The problem is if the wife doesn't fight for her marriage and her husband hard enough. Which does makes it her fault if her husband leaves her.
And yes, I was referring to earlier posts by Sheila more than to this one.
Ann
