Deadly Chakram,
I can only imagine how difficult this time must be for you. I know it doesn't help now, but perhaps you could have a wake for your grandma-in-law on the one-year anniversary of her death? Maybe just knowing that you could do something like that might provide some small comfort.
I hear what you are saying about your pantry/kitchen. While my home still has a long way to go until it is as clean and organized as I would like, it it nevertheless now cleaner and neater than it has been in almost two decades.
Be well,
Lynn
