Hi Nora:
Condolences to you and your family. Go to your local American Cancer Society office and get advice and help. There is a whole world out there of cancer survivors and their families. And they provide good advice and support.
I lost my father to breast cancer when he was 52 and I was 21. Yes, men can get breast cancer, but back in 1963 that was unknown and never talked about. At least now there is help and support.
Also, don't sell your father short in supporting your mother. One of the things I learned about my assumptions of my parent's relationship were that some of them were wrong.
Work to be Team Dad and Daughter to support your mother. Do funny, silly things together while you can.
Good luck and best wishes. Build good memories, they last a lifetime.
regards
Artemis
