James, Elisabeth, I'm so very sorry y'all are going through all of this. Man is born to trouble just as sparks fly upward (a mangling of Ecclesiastes). I know that doesn't really help, but try to remember that you aren't going through this trial in a vacuum. There are other people around you who are supporting you. And - best of all - there is a Friend who will stick closer to both of you than a brother. He won't mind if you lean on Him.
Just remember, if it were easy, anybody could do it. And it wouldn't be a trial, it would be a breeze.
