I love how you swing back and forth between lois being ready to listen and Clark not wanting to tell her to Clark trying to set up a meeting to tell her and Lois ignoring what he is trying to say. Do let her find out so Clark can be comforted.

I think, therefore, I get bananas.

When in doubt, think about time travel conundrums. You'll confuse yourself so you can forget what you were in doubt about.

What's the difference between ignorance, apathy, and ambivalence?
I don't know and I don't care one way or the other.