In most marital problems, there are two sides. I have tried to present both sides and show that both Lois and Clark share responsibility here.

Therefore, I am a little confused as to why Clark seems to be taking most of the blame. Perhaps it is because Lois's mistakes are written as past events, whereas Clark's mistakes are more current.

Regarding Clark's stupidity - he would be a whole lot less stupid if his attitude were ... Lois has shown no interest in me for over a year. She doesn't bother coming home when I cook her meals, she barely glanced at the gift I carefully selected for her, she clearly told me that if the Planet needs her attention, I can't expect her to have time for me. It's obvious she wants a divorce.

*Then* his observations and thought processes would be a lot closer to the reality, but that doesn't sound much like Clark to me. Where Lois is concerned, he usually manages to find a way to blame himself for any difficulties.

Rac Yes Lois *said* she wanted to focus on their relationship, but after a year of her having very little time for him, I'm not sure he is entirely at fault for wondering what's behind her sudden change of priorities.

Your second paragraph is very apt. Particularly the part about Clark feeling it more. He feels their childlessness is his fault.

Thanks so much for leaving FDK. I appreciate your opinion.

JD

We won't need green K! Thanks for your comments.

cookiesmom

Firstly, I really appreciate you leaving FDK.

Secondly, in the interest of balance, the comment could be made - A Lois this neglectful doesn't deserve to be married to Clark.

Again I feel they are both at fault. Had the FDK bagged Lois for her actions, I would have been pointing out that Clark had a part in this too.

Thanks.

Betty Please see comment above about Clark being stupid. Yes, the conclusions he has drawn from his own feelings and what he has observed in Lois are wrong, but as Evelyn says, that isn't unusual in marriage.

Thanks for leaving FDK, Betty. I appreciate your opinion.

Evelyn

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The problem is that they still are not talking very much at all about what they really are thinking and feeling, and talking in depth to catch up on a year of not communicating is not an easy thing, even when you're both equally motivated (which is rare at the same time).
That's what I was thinking. This has been slowly sliding for over a year. I'm not sure it would be realistic to fix it in a half-hour chat.

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Sometimes you can feel so heartbroken, blaming yourself for every little thing, but finally finding out that what you thought you did wrong wasn't, why your partner acted that way was for a very different reason; but to find out those things you had to dig and keep asking for more details, more and more of their thought processes and feelings and more to finally understand, finally find yourself in each other again. But in the struggle, hopefully new strength is found and more love than you thought possible.
If I needed a synopsis for this fic ... there it is. thumbsup

Thanks everyone. I might not completely agree with all of the views expressed, (which could be due to something missing in the fic - did I need to emphasise Lois's neglect more? - or could be because my intention will become clearer in later parts) but I do really appreciate you reading and then taking the time to tell me what you think.

Thanks.

Corrina.