LOL Anni! On chat lines where I don't really feel comfortable sharing ASL (or if some twerp IMs me and I don't know him/her at all), I usually say
'old enough to know better but young enough to do it anyway/guess/not with you' or some other smart-aleck reply. Sometimes I play with the guy - pretend to be a guy (a gay guy, just to make it more fun), or act like a girl all along, and then say, 'well really, I'm a guy' (and see how fast he disconnects!), or some such like that. Not that I really get a lot of unknown people trying to IM with me...
Melisma (giggling, under her Rock, as she remembers the last time she did that - she was pretending to be a gay guy, and it turned out the guy was gay too... *Hello*!
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