But on a more serious note, expectations are, in part, very practical things that can vary between households, so it only makes sense that you explain them. When it's time for a date, does he text her from the car? Does he need to come up to the door? Do you expect him to come inside and make polite conversation with the family -- every time, or just occasionally? What time is curfew, how often/under what circumstances will she need to call home? What sorts of movies are okay to go to/watch with friends? What items of clothing are you uncomfortable with? (Kid comes to my door wearing a "Party Naked" t-shirt, he'll be told my daughter has gone to join a convent.
Either that, or I'll suddenly remember her urgent need to work on homework. Or wash her hair. You know, whatever.)
If you've been talking to your daughter all along and she's on the same page, I think it might be wise to get her contributions to the list; that gives her ownership of it and might help her stand up for it if the boy bad-mouths it. Plus she might have some really good ideas.
Good luck.
PJ
I always think it's revealing to see if/how much a person leaves for a tip at a restaurant, or just in general, how does he treat "the little people" in his life. But that's one thing I wouldn't want to discuss with the potential date, just mention to my daughter beforehand. If he'll behave badly to the waitress now, he'll behave badly to you eventually.
