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Ah, Jane Eyre... That's brings back memories bothe bad and good.

I was first exposed to it when I was (quick calculation) thirteen, in an English literature class. I hated it. (Then again, I wasn't too taken with the class, either. Don't get me wrong; I have nothing against reading or the classics, either, for that matter. I was a particularly avid reader during my childhood and teenage years. I just didn't like the way the subject was taught.)

Back to Jane Eyre: I really hated it! The odd thing is, I can't even remember why. I just found it an excruciating effort and the story had no appeal for me whatsoever.

In fact... I hated it so much that couldn't even finish the book. (I managed to pass the exam with flying colours, though, because we had a choice of questions, so I only answered those relating to the first third of the story, which I had read properly!)

A few years ago, however, I decided to reread the book. (Odd, I know, given how much of an impression it had left on me.) To be frank, I fully expected to hate it again, and I wouldn't have bothered to try at all were it not for the wonderful ninety-nine pence Wordsworth Classics that were coming out at the time. (These were great, because I got to experiment with all sorts of classics I wouldn't have tried otherwise. Hey, if buy a book for ninety-nine pence, you don't feel nearly so guilty about ditching it as if it cost 6.99.)

To my complete and utter surprise, I adored it second time around. And we're talking I-couldn't-put-it-down type adored here. Okay, so there is gratuitous use of the semi-colon in it, but... <shrugs> How had I missed all the feminist subtext before? And all that simmering tension below the surface! And, perhaps most surprising of all, I really cared about the characters in it second time around.

So, I guess, somewhere between thirteen and thirty something, I must have generated a tolerance (and in this particular case a love of) tortured heroes and poor put-upon heroines who defy the odds and managed to carve destinies for themselves anyhow.

So, all told, I have to put myself in the pro-Jane Eyre corner.

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P.S. Beverly: I don't read romances regularly, so I've found your insights in this thread particularly fascinating. Thank you.

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P.S. Beverly: I don't read romances regularly, so I've found your insights in this thread particularly fascinating. Thank you.
You’re very welcome. smile

I’m kind of glad I didn’t post anything else last night because I think I was more tired than I realized. When Wendy mentioned JANE EYRIE my brain translated it to Jane Austin and I probably wouldn’t have made much sense saying anything at that point. After a good night’s sleep, I can now read correctly again. I think. wink

Thing is that while both JANE EYRIE and WUTHERING HEIGHTS are definitely romantic stories, I’m not sure either one would actually be considered romances today in the “genre” sense. For one thing, do either one of them have a happy ending with regards to the romance? I’m pretty sure WH doesn’t but I’m drawing a complete blank on how JE actually ends. (Can you tell neither one rank as personal favorites?) If the endings weren’t happy in that sense, then they’d probably be considered more women’s fiction than romances in today’s market. That’s not a bad thing but simply acknowledging the reality of the genre expectations today.

Jane Austen’s works in general, OTOH, have a lot more in common with the basic romance format today and not just because they’re not nearly as depressing. There are heavy tearjerker romances out there but the one thing that IS absolutely necessary in romances today is having a happy ending to the romance itself. Publishers do occasionally allow authors to get away with playing with that aspect but readers tend to scream bloody murder when it happens. Put it this way, if Austen’s works were written today, basically the only thing that would need to be changed, besides possibly a slight language update, would be for the hero and heroine to get to spend more time together throughout the story. Romances today are heavy on relationship time to actually develop the sense that they WILL have a happily ever after . . . which is not the same thing as a happy ending or even the promise of a happily ever after tacked on at the very end. The kiss of death for a romance author is to hear readers say something like "Well, I like her stories but her couples don't spend nearly enough time together for my tastes."

For examples of the distinction, compare SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE with WHEN HARRY MET SALLY. SIS certainly has a happy ending and a bare minimum promise of a happily ever after but, really, how much did they actually know about each other to make it work in the long term? Not much. It’s romantic but it isn’t necessarily a romance by today’s standards even though as a story it could probably squeak by a romance publisher with some minor revisions. In the abruptness of the ending it has more in common with stories like Austen’s when the whole point was to get them together in the end but not show the actual relationship between the two. For the most part, those are romances of the past, however.

OTOH, in WHMS enough time was actually spent developing the relationship that one comes away pretty convinced they can make it, so there’s not just the happy ending but also some pretty firm assurances that they can have that happily ever after instead of simply an empty promise of one. A similar type of "relationship story" can found in most romances today. That's the distinction today - romances have relationship time between the pair and that sacred happy ending while women's fiction has relationship time between the heroine and whomever, meaning family, friends, etc., but the ending can be up for grabs. Women's fiction can be romantic but that doesn't make it romance.

LOIS & CLARK would most definitely be considered a romance in all ways due to the amount of time that was spent actually developing their relationship, something that’s not always found in other “romantic” series.

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It's Jane Eyre, Beverley, not Jane 'Eyrie' - and, yes, it does have a traditional happy ending. And very satisfying it is too! drool I would definitely call it a romance.


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I have problems reading stories written in first person. It just doesn't seem right, and it's a struggle for me to get through it. I prefer the omniscient narrative rather than a single narrow perspective.

I can see why publishers insist on the happy endings nowadays. Anything else is depressing, and romance novels are meant to be an escape. I actually threw one romance novel across the room because it didn't have a happy ending, and I cherish my books. Needless to say, that was one book I did NOT filch from my mom. wink

I've never read any of the Bronte sisters, even though I know I have one of their books lying around somewhere. The only "romance" from that period that I've read are more along the lines of Louisa May Alcott. An Old-Fashioned Girl has a nice romance ending to it, along with the rest of most of her children's novels.


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It's Jane Eyre, Beverley, not Jane 'Eyrie'
I saw that . . . after it was posted. I think I'm still half-asleep. :rolleyes:

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- and, yes, it does have a traditional happy ending. And very satisfying it is too! I would definitely call it a romance.
If I'm remembering both it and WH correctly they probably are more comparable to Gothic Romances, while Austen's stories have more in common with the traditional Regency Romances of today. Regencies have always been popular to some extent but you might be interested to know that Gothics are experiencing a revival of sorts in the genre currently. In the last year or so, there have been several new books published and marketed as Gothic in style from various publishers. I think one of the publishers has gone so far as to create an imprint along those lines, but I'm drawing a blank on what it's called.

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I think one of the publishers has gone so far as to create an imprint along those lines...
Are you thinking about Dorchester's Candleglow imprint?

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...but the one thing that IS absolutely necessary in romances today is having a happy ending to the romance itself.
Ah yes. The HEA. smile It's what I love about romance. They sail into the sunset -- figuratively speaking though I did read one last summer where they literally did. And as for the relationship time, the H and h must get together quickly in the story. I'm part of a brainstorming group and one criticism that some of the writers had heard from editors or contest judges was that their H/h didn't meet soon enough. The sooner they meet, the more time you have to explore and develop the relationship, have the black moment that drives them apart, and bring them back together for that happy ending. On these boards, there are no word count constraints, but in the real publishing world, there are, so you must make the best of the 50,000 or 80,000 or however many words your editor wants.


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Are you thinking about Dorchester's Candleglow imprint?
I don’t think so but it could be. Hasn’t Candleglow been around for a while? My first impulse was to say it was the Luna new imprint I was thinking of but I do think that’s more paranormal in nature than what I remember the discussion being about. The Luna stories may be Gothic in mood and tone, yes, with everything from werewolves and vampires to psychic stuff, but I could almost swear I remember someone on one of the romance lists I’m on mentioning a new publisher line that was going to be more Gothic-type romances with some of those old style mystery sub-plots and with more modern sensibilities. If I can find the list of titles I made note of I’ll see if I can also find out what lines they’re in.

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I'm part of a brainstorming group and one criticism that some of the writers had heard from editors or contest judges was that their H/h didn't meet soon enough. The sooner they meet, the more time you have to explore and develop the relationship, have the black moment that drives them apart, and bring them back together for that happy ending.
Ah, yes, the semi-mythical 50 page limit. OTOH, it’s still amazing just how sensitive one can become to the timing feeling “wrong” after reading so many romances and editors are sensitive to that whether they judge it literally by page counts or not. It’s probably more that experienced readers simply know when the pair should’ve already met for that particular story and start getting impatient when it doesn’t happen - more a matter of rhythm and pace than page count. If those are off, they’re just off no matter how many pages into the story it is.

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Ah ha. This explains why so many romance novels I had were EXACTLY 132 pages long. I kept track of what books I read one summer, complete with pages counts, and I noticed that trend.


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Sounds like you were reading from one of the series/category lines like Harlequin or Silhouette and not from one of the single title lines like Avon, Leisure/Love Spell, Kensington, etc. Within each line, there are specific page count ranges but the series/category books as well as the traditional Regency Romances are by far the smallest. I don't have the paperback page count numbers handy but those shorter books generally top out at a couple of hundred pages and publishers are a lot stricter about staying within the individual line guidelines. By comparison, most single title paperback romances fall in the 300-500 page range and the length variation between individual books even for the same publisher is a lot less strict. It's rare for any romances to reach epic lengths (700+ pages) nowadays but it does still happen on occasion.

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I'm late, but want to weigh in on the JE/WH discussion. There are different things that can influence a persons's appreciation of stories. I first read 'Jane Eyre' when I was about ten. My older borther subscribed to a book club called Heritage Classics (?) and their edition of 'Jane Eyre' was a beautiful hardback tome with absolutely fantastic engraved illustrations. At ten, I was fascinated by the rotogravure and by the fact that the first half of the book was about a little girl just about my age. Then came the fascinating Mr. Rochester and the story line that was later embodied in a more contemporary book, 'Rebecca' by Daphne du Maurier (?). Yes, Bevcerly, a delightful gothic romance, Jane Eyre has been one of my favorite stories every since, and I think I have almost every one of the many film versions on tape. There have been some very satusfying Edward Rochesters and a few disasters. My favorite is George C. Scott, and my least favorite, William Hurt. But I don't think anyone has ever properly caught Jane.

As for Wuthering Heights, I've never been able to read the thing all the way through. I know critics conisder it the masterpiece of the two, but I say de gustibus and what do critics know. dance


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Ok, I have this long list of things I'm supposed to be doing right now but....
- Thanks, Marilyn, for these posts on writing smile
- So what's so bad about invisible friends???
- Jane Eyre - never trust a man who locks his first wife up in the attic
- Loved Wuthereing Heights!!! soooo atmospheric, + a ghost and Heathcliffe! - yeah I know my inner feminist should hate him
- Jane Austen rules!

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Which reminds me-

For an excellent example of how effective the use of a mirror character can be, Yesterday Upon the Stair is a must read.

I love how this character gets at things, so much more so than if Lois was just "thinking" them to herself.

Really interesting discussion, by the way.

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edit- you know it, had the belated thought that it might be helpful if I mentioned that this story is on the archive, is written by one CC Malo, and is one of the best things I've read all year. Go see.


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Here's the info on the Luna imprint from the Harlequin site. I suppose Gothic could fit in there.

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Powerful, alluring, mythic, elemental — magical.

LUNA Books delivers a compelling, female-focused fantasy with vivid characters, rich worlds, strong, sympathetic women and romantic subplots.

LUNA Books wants emotionally complex, sweeping stories that highlight the inner female power. Whether the heroine is on a quest to save the world — or someone or something important to her — discover her past or develop her own abilities, these stories are involving, gripping and sweep the reader away into a detailed, convincing world. They also contain romantic subplots that enhance the main story but don't become the focus of the novel.

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100,000-150,000

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Other worlds, alternate historical or contemporary.
As for category romances having the same number of pages, I had an author explain a little of that to me. Let's take the Silhouette Desire line, for example. There's a 55,000 to 60,000 word guideline, which means that the page length of course will vary. However, the publisher gets a better deal from the printer if every book is the same number of pages because the printer only has to set up the presses once (or something like that). If you look carefully, some Desires have larger print and some smaller. Some have more pages of advertising than others. This is how they adjust for the variance in word count.


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I *like* using mirror characters. laugh I was the first one to cheer when my professors labeled tons of introspection as evil and to be avoided at all costs. There's a balance that must be struck, and mirror characters help achieve that balance.

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Since this thread has gotten a lot more play here than on Zoom's mbs, I asked her if I could post her comment about the use of mirror characters. Since Zoom isn't a member here, she graciously agreed to let me share:

"Money is the root of all evil," is probably the most misquoted line from the bible. It actually says "For the love of money is the root of all evil," and I think we have something of a parallel with introspection

Introspection itself isn't evil. In fact, it's useful for giving us a glimpse into a character's emotions or motivations when no other plausible way is available at that point in the story. However, when it drones on paragraph after paragraph, or worse, page after page, it starts working against the impact of the story and causes more than a few readers to skim ahead in frustration.

Another problem with introspection happens when a writer is not good at keeping the character busy doing something while he/she is spewing internal monologue. In one fanfic, for example, it took 20K of the story just to have Lois walk down a single flight of stairs while her introspection chugged along. I've heard of people who can't walk and chew gum at the same time, but poor Lois couldn't think and walk down the stairs at the same time

Even worse than that, though, is when long passages of introspection interrupt a conversation. I mean imagine Lois and Clark holding ice cream cones on a warm summer day ...

"Lois, have you given any further thought about what we discussed last night?" Clark asked.

"Well, life has been hectic," Lois stalled.

What could she really say? Men had abandoned her all her life, she thought ... and thought ... and thought ....

3 paragraphs later ...

After those humiliations in high school, there was the humiliation of college ..."

6 paragraphs later ...

But Clark was different! He was so sweet and so understanding and ..."

"Lois."

"Huh? Clark, are you in my head?"

"Yes, Lois. I know it's rude to cut into your introspection, but did you notice that while you're thinking on and on telling the readers about things they've read a thousand times before that I'm just standing here not saying or doing anything? Did you notice my ice cream is melting down my fingers and pooling on the tops of my shoes?"

"Well, I ..."

"It's embarrassing. People are walking by staring at us frozen in time. I wish I could say the same for my ice cream."

"What am I supposed to do, Clark, I have issues!"

Clark mentally shrugged. Thankfully, being inside Lois' head, she was able to see it. "Have you thought of discussing these things with a mirror character, Lois?"

"You mean actually speaking aloud and interacting with someone? Isn't that a little radical?"

Clark laughed ... internally of course. "No, it's a lot of fun for you and the reader."

Just then Jimmy Olsen, a character whose last name is chronically misspelled in fanfic, joined the throng of onlookers on the sidewalk who were watching Clark's ice cream melt. The young man smiled. "Lois doing that internal monologue stuff again?"

"Yeah," Clark replied, surprised his voice hadn't atrophied from disuse. "If you could just be her sounding board while I go clean my hands, I'd really appreciate it."

"Oh, no sweat, CK, I did that on the series all the time."

"Thanks, Jimmy." Clark discarded the empty, soggy cone and began to navigate towards the nearest washroom, but pivoted on his heel. "And be sure to tell her I'm not like her dad, or the guy in high school, or the one in college, or Claude and I'm definitely not like Lex Luthor," he said, recalling happily how often Lex's last name was misspelled in fanfic and at least once in the series.

"Got it," Jimmy said and then snapped his fingers several times in front of Lois.

"Wh..what happened?" she asked drowsily, but then noticed the pistachio puddle where Clark had been and the chocolate lake at her own feet. "I was doing it again, wasn't I?"

Jimmy nodded, his eyes filled with sympathy. "But don't worry, Lois, I'm here to help you out of the introspection trap. So's Perry, or your mom for that matter."

"Thanks," Lois said and pulled a moist towelette from her purse to clean her hands as she and Jimmy walked up the street. A small dog followed close behind lapping up her chocolate footprints. "I don't really want to talk to my mother, though."

Jimmy laughed and unclipped Lois' cell phone from the side of her purse and waved it in front of her. "CK probably has clean hands now. Maybe you should let him know you're trying to get over your introspection addiction."

Lois sighed. "I guess so," she said and dialed his number. "Clark?" she asked tentatively. "Can you hear me now?"

The End

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Well said, Zoom!

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As I said in another thread, it's all - to borrow a cliché - horses for courses. In other words, different people have different tastes. I'm not talking about 'forgetting to mix actions and introspection' - that's something very minor, which any writer can fix once a good BR or thoughtful commenter points it out. I mean introspection in general versus dialogue, use of mirror characters or whatever.

As I commented in Yvonne's thread, different readers have different tastes. For those who enjoy introspection, getting inside the characters' heads, there are published authors such as Mary Balogh, Mary-Jo Putney and others who write in that style; for those who prefer lots of dialogue and less 'thinking', there are plenty of other writers who offer that kind of writing. smile It doesn't mean that one is 'right' and the other 'wrong'; it's quite simply a matter of preference. And variety - I do occasionally enjoy reading something in a different style from my usual preference. wink For example, CC and I have this little running debate going on the merits of introspection - I like more, she prefers less - but that doesn't stop me loving her stories and having most of them on my Kerth list. goofy

Sure, I have used mirror characters - what are Jonathan and Martha there for in many of the episodes, and in a heck of a lot of fanfic, if not to allow Clark to explain what he's feeling? goofy I'd use such a device more often for Lois, but that's not a pattern the series established for us. If Lucy had stayed around a little longer, then I'm sure we'd have seen Lois confiding in her sister. But Lucy disappeared and Lois very, very rarely discussed her feelings with anyone. So when she did so in Target Jimmy Olsen, it seemed so off the wall that she'd confide in Sarah that a lot of FoLCs, from what I can tell, were sceptical (and not only because of the way that episode went even in its final version). Lois wasn't in the habit of confiding in people she barely knew; she rarely even confided in those closest to her. Perry came closest to a confidant, until she truly felt like part of Clark's family and confided in his parents.

Still, for someone who prefers to write dialogue rather than introspection, there's scope to have Lois talk to Perry or Lucy or - at a stretch - Jimmy. Or even Martha Kent, if the circumstances are right. Carol Malo's Yesterday, Upon the Stairs worked because Jeff was a childhood friend of Lois's, but more especially because we didn't find out who Jeff was until near the end of the story and, because he wasn't actually there, it was easier to imagine Lois confiding in him. (If you haven't read the story, run and read it and you'll see what I mean! wink ).

I think writing in general, and fanfic in particular, offers us enough scope to allow us to write in whatever style suits us best - and, best of all, offers readers plenty of variety.


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Wow - this thread is all over the place. However, I'll stick to one small part of it.

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Do men think about finding the solution more than they dwell on the emotions?

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I can't say for sure, but men probably do think a lot. They just don't verbalize about it. I'll be anxious to see if any of the fellas post here.
Personally, I think a lot, but don't verbalize it very much at all. Which has led to more "disagreements" with my wife than I care to admit to. I'm a worrier. All day long, my mind is chewing on all kinds of things. How long is our tired, vernerable mini-van going to last? Where will I find the money to replace it if it decides to go belly-up? How do I teach my youngest one to quit being such a drama-queen? Is my oldest one ever going to be able to overcome her Sensory Integration problems enough to live a "normal" life, or will I have to be her filter and buffer her whole life? How much money is left in the checking account, and how many days till pay day? <THAT MANY?! - worry - worry - worry...> My wife's birthday is coming up, and she keeps telling me I don't need to get her anything, but I know from past experience, I'd better get her something... The laundry basket looked like it was getting a bit full, but it's only the middle of the week - could we really have filled it that quickly? What in the world are we going to eat for supper tonight since we have X number of places to be in Y number of hours, not counting homework, getting the kids a bath and a snack, spending SOME quality time with them...

It's just a constant running commentary in the background. Yes, I spend a lot of time trying to find solutions to things I think of as "problems." Right or wrong, my thinking is, "I'm the man of the household. I'm supposed to be the provider and problem solver. I'm supposed to be the one who knows what to do."

Since I don't verbalize it much - if any - my wife often thinks I don't think about anything but my work, and when the next meal is. wink


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This is interesting, because my theory about my brother is that his whole approach to life is based on problem-solving. This includes finding a partner, keeping said partner, and, dare I say it, even finding a way to love said partner.

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